TEMPERAMENT

Love as a consistent force of attraction that is potent enough to stir commitment in a person towards another in a romantic or an affectionate manner.

Courtship is a frame of time that should achieve information gathering around the background, experiences, exposure, health statuses, career, association, trauma, failure, success, past, present, and future aspirations of the parties involved in it.

Consistency is the soul of a business. You don’t know your partner just once and for all; you have to be consistent and committed to knowing one another as your relationship progresses to see your desired marital result.

Knowing the temperament of our spouse should therefore help us to be more bearing, patient, and prayerful for them, knowing fully that they might not be deliberate in their shortcoming. However, God’s golden intention for us in marriage is to give us partners who are suitable for us and not necessarily the same as us.

The partner of a phlegmatic will need to understand that the greatest emotional needs of his or her phlegmatic spouse are peace, serenity, and respect.

Phlegmatic individuals are usually loved by most people because of their calm nature. They love people genuinely, and they love to be around people; though they are not outspoken, they have a sense of dry humor that makes them stick to their company.

The phlegmatic spouses are peaceful personified, relaxed, easy going, consistent, kind, sympathetic, witty, quiet, collected, cool, and calm. However, peace is the hallmark of the phlegmatic trait. Abraham and Isaac were both men of peace; they showed this phlegmatic trait by how they avoided conflicts and how willing they were to give anything in exchange for peace.

Melancholy spouse will need to trust God to be less judgemental and less critical on himself/herself so as not to raise a nervous child, who is well talented but less confident

A number of persons with melancholy traits are addicted to pornographic materials, masturbation, and drugs and thereby susceptible to depression because of guilt and shame, and they also could be easily subjected to unhealthy self-esteem and negativity because they are highly critical and analytical in their approach to life.

Many opposite sex do find the melancholy very attractive because of their well-organized nature and for their intellectual capability