COURTSHIP

UNDERSTANDING THE LOVE NEED OF YOUR PARTNER IN A MARITAL RELATIONSHIP

Having a balanced view of your spouse is highly essential to sustaining romance in your marital relationship, as relating to your spouse’s strengths alone makes you have unrealistic expectations of him or her, while addressing just his or her weaknesses makes you a critic. He or she is not a super being; he or she has strengths as well as weaknesses. However, your ability to relate to both shows your maturity.

Knowing the personality of your spouse gives you the required tenacity to accept him or her unconditionally, and it further endows you with the effrontery needed to shun comparing him or her to your ex-lover and any other.

When the period of courtship is well maximized by the parties involved in a marital relationship, understanding of one another is easily achieved as their relationship progresses.

Challenges or problems come with everyday living, and living with a spouse is not exceptional; but when we are critical in our thinking, we are less judgmental of our spouses and others, we are able to accept our faults, we are resilient while going through a difficult time, we are able to be more patient and be more empathic first with ourselves, our spouses, and others.

No organization or a marital partner feels good about getting a ‘NO’ as a feedback to a challenge from you. Therefore no excuse is tell-able enough for not engaging the problem solving skill as the inability to do so might presents you as a nonchalant lover or a passive employee.

When was the last time you said “thank you” to your marital partner for the favor you received from him or her? Make expressing gratitude your custom, as it enhances your relationship with your spouse.

Not choosing to use the simple statement “I am sorry” while resolving conflict can impede the growth of trust in a marital relationship and make the offended find it difficult to restore the offender to the formally occupied space in his or her heart, even though their conflict appeared resolved superficially.

The relationship that a person has with himself or herself becomes the pre-requisite or basis for building successful interpersonal relationship skills. Consequently, the process of having a healthy relationship with oneself begins with whether a person has a healthy self-perception of himself or not.